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27 Rules of Design

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  1. Dining Seating Space: Each seat should have a minimum of 24 inches of space at the table (30 inches if you want extra elbow room). For circular tables, find the circumference of your table and divide by 24 inches to determine how many chairs will fit around it.
  2.  Extra Chairs: Buy a couple of extra chairs, and pull them out for larger dinner parties. If you warn your guests ahead, most people don’t mind squeezing in to accommodate larger groups.
  3. “When hanging your own curtains, hang your curtain rod six inches wide and 12 inches high past the window frame. This will make your windows feel larger and maximize natural light—especially in the warmer summer months when you want to let all the light into your home.” Shelby Girard, head interior designer at Havenly.
  4. One gallon of paint will cover approximately 400 square feet
  5. “A dining room’s fixture should be one-third to two-thirds the width of the table”,  Trunck,  Havenly designer.
  6. Size of Chandelier: A handy equation is to add the width and length of your room in feet. That total would be the recommended width of your chandelier, in inches.
  7.  “When choosing your art, consider something at least 36 inches wide for above a sofa. When in doubt, the bigger the better!”Trunck,  Havenly designer.
  8. Never hang art higher than eye-level, but you can break the rule by leaning art against the wall either on the floor or on a piece of furniture for a relaxed look.
  9. Light fixtures: Go extra big to really make a statement in a room, or swap your single chandelier for two light fixtures when dealing with an extra-long dining table.
  10.  Save on paint by painting only the lower half of your wall and leaving the higher half white. Your windowsills are a good guide when choosing how high to paint.
  11. Never ever hang your curtains lower than suggested, but you can always go higher. Hang your curtains jut a few inches below the ceiling to really give a sense of height to your room—just make sure they also reach the floor. No one likes curtains that fall short.
  12. “When it comes to sizing out your living room rug, the rug should be large enough to fit under at least the front two feet of your furniture, with the long side of the rug parallel to your sofa,” Girard,  Havenly designer.
  13.  If you’ve fallen in love with a rug that doesn’t come in the size you need (or a size you can afford), cheat by layering the rug on top of a less expensive natural woven rug like a jute rug—that way, your rug won’t feel like a postage stamp in the middle of your room.
  14. “Typical seat height for dining room chairs is 18 inches and for dining room tables is 30 inches tall,” says Girard
  15.  “Always mix materials and add texture—metal mixed with wood, or rattan or natural woven fabrics with lacquered furniture or walls, for example,” Charleston, South Carolina–based interior designer Angie Hranowsky
  16. “Be sure to have light coming from multiple sources, not just overhead. Find creative places for an extra floor lamp, sconce, or empty corner where a small table lamp could reside for added glow.”
  17. “Don’t be afraid to take some chances to make bold statements, updating classic, timeless elements to make them current and your own,” interior designer Grant K. Gibson.
  18. “Anytime you’ve got brick walls and they’re keeping you from using the color scheme you really want, kick that brackish brownish-red to the curb by painting the brick white,” says Brian Patrick Flynn of Flynnside Out Productions.
  19.  “Measure twice, buy once” is the mantra Jennifer Jones of Niche Interiors adheres to.
  20. “Use every square inch of space in creative ways—especially in a small home where you can’t have a lot of clutter. Include pieces that are as functional as they are sculptural and interesting,”  Los Angeles–based interior designer Jeff Andrews 
  21.  “There should always be a hierarchy of elements within the space, even the most maximalist rooms should possess a cohesive dialogue with well-balanced, thoughtful dimensions.”  Kelly Wearstler
  22.  “The only real rule in decorating is to buy things that you love.”  Lilly Bunn
  23. “One should always enhance a space’s natural atmosphere. When in doubt, make a dark room darker,” says San Francisco interior designer Scot Meacham Wood.

  24. The 3/3 vertical rule

    McCauley’s concept works like this: if nature were a framed viewpoint, the darkest colors would be found towards the ground. (Think dark grasses, stones, and mud.) Meanwhile, the medium tones of trees and plant life would be in the middle. Lightly-toned skies would round out the top of the frame.

  25. The 10-30-60 rule

    With this rule, you’ll end up choosing a dominant shade, a secondary shade, and an accent color. As the name of this rule suggests, your dominant shade will cover about 60% of the room. Since it plays such a large role in your design, you may want this to be your most neutral choice. The dominant shade is a good choice for things like your wall color and floor coverings. Then, your secondary shade can be a bit bolder and is usually fit for furniture. Finally, your accent color is your boldest choice and can be found in accessories.

  26. The rule of threes

    Odd-numbered groupings create more visual interest than even numbered groupings. In particular, three seems to be the ideal number for a grouping as opposed to one, five, or even seven because the former might feel too simple while the latter two run the risk of appearing overly cluttered.

  27. Avoid Clutter

Research and Resolutions

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1. Recent studies have linked more frequent Facebook use to poor physical and mental health, plus diminished life satisfaction. 

Resolution 2017.10.1.a decrease checking Facebook and Instagram from 1 time a day to 1 time a week 

2. Research published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found that people who spent money on saving time, reported greater life satisfaction. 

Resolution 2017.10.1.b dedicate a budget for secondary  Services

3. Research found that People who felt the wisest range of positive emotions had the lowest levels of inflammatory markers in their blood. 

Resolution 2017.10.1.c verbalize the positive feelings of emotion and express them, and take note on what causes them to increase it. 

4. Research shows that forgiving yourself and others can protect against stress and the toll it takes on mental health. 

Resolution 2017.10.1.d forgive and let go of all grudges 

5. Research shows that over planning and under planning trips may

Resolution 2017.10.1.e take smaller random trips and vacations locally 

6. Research shows any kind of green space can make you happier. 

Resolution 2017.10.1.f  insist on visiting and holding meetings or gatherings in green spaces 

7. Research shows that supportive friendships was found to be a better predictor of well-being than having strong family connections. 

Resolution 2017.10.1.g increase friends 

8. Research shows that giving makes you happier than taking. That Random acts of kindness can bring a person happiness. 

Resolution 2017.10.1.h do a random act of kindness every day 

meaning over happiness

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Our culture is obsessed with happiness, but what if there’s a more fulfilling path? Happiness comes and goes, says writer Emily Esfahani Smith, but having meaning in life — serving something beyond yourself and developing the best within you — gives you something to hold onto. Learn more about the difference between being happy and having meaning as Esfahani Smith offers four pillars of a meaningful life.

I recommend creating habits of meaning in your daily life. In my book, I talk about 4 pillars of meaning—belonging, purpose, storytelling, and transcendence. So find ways to build these pillars in your life. For example, after writing my book, I realized that storytelling—crafting a narrative about my life and life in general—was an important source of meaning for me, so I started keeping a journal where I process different experiences I’m having. For transcendence, I make sure to regularly spend time in places that inspire awe in me, like in nature or at the art museum. I’ve found that technology can be a real barrier to both transcendence and belonging, so I’m trying to get some control over my addiction to it. Instead of checking social media or the headlines before I go to bed, I try to read a poem or listen to some music as I meditate. I don’t always succeed, but no one said trying to live a meaningful life is easy!