Thought of Today: January 01, 2017 at 04:21PM

Types of Gender on which most Western civilizations laws were written:
1. Make

2. Female 
Types of Gender on which Islamic law is written:

1. Male
2. Female
3. Hermaphrodite

Types of Gender today:

1. Agender/Genderless/gender neutral: does not identify with a specific gender

2. Androgynous/Androgyn/Gender benders: combination of masculine and feminine traits

3. Gender conforming: conforms with cultural and traditional expectation of his/her perceived sex.

4. Bigender- someone who identifies as both a man and a woman with spectrum of mixing.

5. Cis- all of these terms capture that a person is not trans or does not have a gender diverse identity or presentation.

6. Cis Female (see also Cis Woman, Cisgender Female, Cisgender Woman); a female who identifies as a woman/has a feminine gender identity.

7. Cis Male (see also Cis Man, Cisgender Male, Cisgender Man); a male who identifies as a man/has a masculine gender identity.

8. Cisgender: A person who has the gender identity commonly associated with their biological sex (e.g., someone who is assigned as a female at birth and who lives as a woman).

9. Female to Male/ FTM- a trans person who was assigned female sex, and now lives as a man and has a masculine gender identity.

10. Gender Fluid- someone whose gender identity and presentation are not confined to only one gender category. Switches between male and female as they wish or feel.

11. Gender Nonconforming- Someone who looks and/or behaves in ways that don’t conform to, or are atypical of, society’s expectations of how a person of that gender should look or behave. (See also this excellent article by Dr. Eric Grollman about gender conformity & gender non-conformity).

12. Gender Questioning- Someone who may be questioning their gender or gender identity, and/or considering other ways of experiencing or expressing their gender or gender presentation.

13. Gender Variant/ naturalist/ Gender bon-conformist – an umbrella term that refers to anyone who, for any reason, does not have a cisgender identity.

14. Genderqueer- Someone who identifies outside of, or wishes to challenge, the two-gender (i.e., man/woman) system; may identify as multiple genders.

15. Intersex- Generally refers to someone whose chromosomes, gonads (i.e., ovaries or testes), hormonal profiles, and anatomy do not conform to the expected configurations of either male typical or female typical bodies. Some intersex conditions are apparent at birth, while others are noticed around puberty or later (if ever).

16. Male to Female/MTF- a trans person who was assigned male sex (likely at birth), and now lives as a woman and has a feminine gender identity.

17. Neutrois- An umbrella term within the bigger umbrella terms of transgender or genderqueer.

18. Non-binary- Similar to genderqueer, this is a way of describing one’s gender as outside the two-gender (i.e., man/woman) system and/or challenging that system.

19. Pangender- “Pan” means every, or all, and this is another identity label such like genderqueer or neutrois that challenges binary gender and is inclusive of gender diverse people.

20. Transgender- an umbrella term that includes all people who have genders not traditionally associated with their assigned sex. People who identify as transgender may or may not have altered their bodies through surgery and/or hormones. Some examples:

21. Trans Man (see FTM above); Although some people write the term as “transman” (no space between trans and man) or trans-man (note the hyphen), some advocate for a space to be included between “trans” and “man” in order to indicate that the person is a man and that the “trans” part may not be a defining characteristic or central to his identity.

22. Transsexual person – For many people this term indicates that a person has made lasting changes to their physical body, specifically their sexual anatomy (e.g., genitals and/or breasts or chest), through surgery.

23. Transsexual Woman – Someone who was assigned male sex at birth who has most likely transitioned (such as through surgery and/or hormones) to living as a woman.

24. Transsexual Man- Someone who was assigned female at birth who has most likely transitioned (such as through surgery and/or hormones) to living as a man.

25. Transmasculine- Someone assigned a female sex at birth and who identifies as masculine, but may not identify wholly as a man. Often, you’ll encounter the phrase “masculine of center” to indicate where people who identify as transmasculine see themselves in relation to other genders.

26. Transfeminine- Someone assigned a male sex at birth who identifies as feminine, but may not identify wholly as a woman. Often, you’ll encounter the phrase “feminine of center” to indicate where people who identify as transfeminine see themselves in relation to other genders.

27. Two-spirit- This term likely originated with the Zuni tribe of North America, though two-spirit persons have been documented in numerous tribes. Native Americans, who have both masculine and feminine characteristics and presentations, have distinct roles in their tribes, and they are seen as a third gender. (Recently, Germany and Nepal adopted a third gender option for citizens to select).

Goal Setting 2017

In efforts of improving my goal setting strategies which evolves year after year, I am using the strategy of the Large Monthly Charts with three color coding.

Basically this chart consists of 30 rows, one for each day of the month, and one column per goal.

My yearly goals are divided into monthly milestones, and these are divided loosely into 10-30 simple milestones that spread across the 30 boxes of the month.  Having a milestone in a box does not mean a dead line or a due date.  It basically means an estimate of when will that task be accomplished.  That gives me the flexibility of two things:

  1. Picking the goal (column) I want to work on depending on the mode and level of energy.
  2. Accomplishing these small bits of milestones or tasks (boxes) at anytime I want within the month.

Now, I color the task that is accomplished with in the estimated day of the month or before it in Green, and the ones accomplished after the estimated day in yellow.  The boxes abandoned will be colored in red or orange.

I can visually track my success in achieving my goals by glancing at the colors on this large chart.  The more green, the more I am on task.  The more yellow, the more I need to step up my game and figure out what is my distraction.  The more orange/red, the more I need to replan my next month to ensure that I catch up with my goals.

Now, you may ask, what are these goals.

Well, you will be surprised that out of the 30 goals, there are technical ones such as:

  1. Losing Weight (1 pound per 3 days)
  2. Learning French (1 duolingo lesson per day)
  3. Acquiring Clients to W Design and Development (10 clients a month so about 1 every three days or 2-3 a week)
  4. Writing a Book (dividing it into chapters, and the chapter mind map into days)

And there are other goals that have to do with my passions and hobbies, such as:

  1. Playing Piano (picking pieces to play, and dividing practice to 3 measures per day)
  2. Meditation (10 minutes per day that can be made up by extending the time for other days)
  3. Sports (changes seasonally because I get bored fast)

and what I am trying this year that I haven’t tried before is including non-tangible values and relationship into yearly goals, so for example:

  1. Family (picking one person a day to spend a quality time, conversation, or at least a phone call with)
  2. Friends (connecting with one friend a day either by spending quality reflective time together, or at least by a meaningful phone conversation or email or a facebook post)
  3. Gratitude (thinking of one thing I am thankful for)

Although this program starts on January 1, 2016, I have decided to start doing January program early on.  Here are my reflections so far:

 

  1. The flexibility is stress free in the program.
  2. Coloring something in green is giving me a positive reinforcement. So I am thinking to attach a positive reward to it, like number of chocolates I can eat a month equal to the green boxes.
  3. It is keeping me occupied all the time, because whenever I have free time, I look at the chart and pick something that I am in the mood for doing.

If you try it yourself, please give me your feedback.  If you have different strategies that works magic with you, please share.

 

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Thought of Today: December 21, 2016 at 09:10PM

“الْيَوْمَ، المؤسسات العالمية لحقوق الانسان و المرأة و البيئة و الحيوان و الطفل تقدّم فكراً ارقى مما تقدمه الأديان في نفس النطاق”. الشيخ طالب السنجري

“Today, the international organizations for human rights, and child rights, women rights, environment rights, and animal rights, offers a philosophy that is more powerful than what religions offer in the same area”. Imam Talib Sanjari

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